Going on a first date can be nerve-wracking for most, if not all, people. All of us, at one point in our lives, have gone through the motions of preparing for that first date. After all, it sets the tone for the rest (or lack of) of your relationship with that other person. It’s so hard to find love these days and a first date can turn you into a quivering mass of nerves and excitement that a single wrong move can set off the date in a very bad way. So here are a couple of things that you have to avoid during that first date:
First of all, don’t be late. This gives off the impression that you are unreliable or not that interested in the date. Give yourself plenty of lead time to get there on time. If you get there in the nick of time or just plain late, chances are you will be flustered and uncomfortable. Not a great way to start the date.
Don’t fumble for your phone. Don’t text. Accept calls only when absolutely necessary. Texting while on a date gives off the impression that you are bored and while that maybe the case, common courtesy dictates that you should give your complete attention on the other person while on a date.
Avoid discussing controversial issues. The dating scene has become somewhat relaxed that you can discuss religion and politics, but only to a certain degree. Do not, for crying out loud, let them be the topic of conversation for the rest of the evening. Get to know the person better, but do not concentrate on his religion and political leanings. It still a huge no-no, though, to talk about your previous relationships and sex.
Don’t drink too much. A drink or two is good to calm frayed nerves and smooth things over. However, a drink too many can make you sloppy, and you might spill out things that are way too early to know during the conversation.
Don’t come off as too eager; but don’t be too aloof either. Strike the balance in between. Get to know the guy but know when to draw the line. There are just some things that are too private to know in the early days.
Don’t order food that is tricky to eat. Like parsley that gets stuck on your teeth, or messy burgers where you need to clean yourself up with after, or something that has onion and garlic. Also, be sensitive to your date’s way of eating. If he happens to be a vegetarian, it is accepted if you order meat on the menu, but do not order something that will offend your date’s sensibilities.
Lastly, never try to hide your personality. Yes, we try to make a good first impression and we put our best foot forward, but pretending to be someone else just to be liked is a different matter altogether. You will be found out later on in the game. It’s best if you put yourself out there, and if he doesn’t like it, well, it is his loss. The key to a good date is to manage your expectations. Don’t go there thinking that this might be “the one,” but don’t go in there expecting the worst.
Here’s to finding true love!