Igniting the Flame



I know for a fact that we, women, are like this: when a man asks for or creates distance or space, it’s tempting to try to resist it and grab on tighter. Honestly, that plan actually only backfires.

That’s because people naturally tend to want to run away from that which is running to them. He’ll feel like you’re forcing closeness, and your man would want to be out of it. What you would need to do instead, is to create an emotional attraction between the two of you in order to reconnect

I have here some tips:

1) Allow him the space he needs and take some space for yourself

That means you take all that energy and attention you’ve been putting into holding the relationship together and instead redirect it towards your own life: your friends, your hobbies, whatever makes you happy.

When you do this, something magical happens.

First, you feel empowered over the situation so that your emotions do not overtake you.

Second, men often move past their own doubts and fears in their own time when given space (a few hours or days) to do so.

2) Shake things up a little to create interest and excitement for both of you Attraction and love happens in a man most of the time because of newness and unpredictability.

If things have fizzled out with a man you had a close, connected relationship with, you can jump-start things by injecting new and unpredictable things into how you relate with him.

So, if you normally have the same weekend routine, mix it up. Come up with something different and interesting to do. Pick a sport that you can do with him, go out and meet new people together, explore different ways to be intimate together, plan a trip somewhere you’ve always wanted to go to. And if you are together all the time, spending time apart as in step two creates newness and unpredictability, too.

If things are stalling in your relationship with a man but you used to feel very connected to him, this is actually good news for you. That’s because you already have all the ingredients you need to re-light the fire of the relationship.

If he was physically and emotionally attracted to you before, you can inspire the same level of closeness again.

All it takes is keeping the emotional attraction strong by giving him the space he needs and creating fresh opportunities to keep you both excited about your time together.

Stay in love everyone!


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