Monthly Archives: October 2014

Is He Boyfriend Material? Ask These Two Questions

James Michael Sama

Sometimes when I receive emails from or have discussions with women regarding their current boyfriend or a guy who they are thinking of becoming exclusive with, one thing seems to be apparent to onlookers, but missed by the person in the relationship.

There is a big difference between liking someone, and liking the idea of someone.


I think we have all been there. We begin to miss an ex or become excited about someone new. But are we really missing the ex, or are we missing the things we did and had with them? Are we really excited about this new person, or are we just enjoying the companionship which we could get from anyone who texts us nice things and compliments us?

A lot of times when I ask a woman what it is she likes about someone she is seeing, there are many times where the answers are…

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For A Happier Relationship, Do This Daily

James Michael Sama

I often receive emails or Facebook messages from readers – not all of which I have the time to answer. I do my best to read through them though, and one had stuck out to me in the past.

It was from a female reader who wanted input on her relationship. One of the lines in the message said: “I think at some point I want what every other girl wants. A boyfriend that makes her feel like she matters.”


At some point? At some point? As if to imply that up until that elusive some point, whenever that may be, it is acceptable to have a boyfriend who doesn’t make you feel like you matter?

No. Just…no. The very foundation of a relationship is love. Appreciation. Respect. Trust. Affection. All of which need to be mutual and all of which make someone feel like they matter. If…

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